I get into a discussion on this topic quite frequently, especially with other gay men. They will make comments like “I don’t find black guys attractive” or “I mostly prefer white men”, but they don’t seem to understand that these comments, on a subconscious level, are racist.
These preferences may seem innocent and harmless but they perpetuate a mindset within the gay community that associates value of one race over the value of others. As a result, statements like “I don’t like asians” or “I’m not interested in black guys” have become prevalent comments on any dating application or website for gay men (e.g. grindr, jack’d, adam4adam, etc.).
If you can’t agree that those comments are racist, then we can hopefully at least agree that they are dehumanizing for people of color. And if your “preferences” are dehumanizing an entire race of people, then they’re not as harmless and innocent as you think.
The problem is not necessarily the individuals that have these preferences. The issue is the media, ESPECIALLY gay media, which overwhelmingly uses white men as the image that every gay man should aspire to be.
Don’t get me wrong, the issue of racial preferences in our community doesn’t only occur to fetishize white men/culture. There are gay men, less common than the aforementioned, who will only date certain races of color. This is just bad. It is sexual objectification and, which also has, in my opinion, extensive negative consequences.
We need to challenge what society tells us is attractive and understand that someone’s race is a superficial characteristic to judge someone by.
You’re looking for racism where there isn’t any.
Having preferences of physical characteristics is not racist.
I’m almost positive this only applies to white people. For instance, black people not wanting to date white people, Asians only wanting to date other Asians, Hispanics only wanting to date other Hispanics, etc…but nope, totally has nothing to do with cultural preference, it’s definitely racist!
As much sense as a straight guy saying he prefers females is inherently homophobic and that exercising that preference makes them subconsciously hate homosexuals. You wanna talk about “rape culture”? Arguing that x is entitled to affection from y because (reasons) is pretty fucking right up there in your “problematic” tier system garbage.
Get the fuck out of here.